I was just watching and old classic from the early 1940's titled, "Miss Annie Rooney" starring Shirley Temple and Dickie Moore. The story is about two young teenagers who find love. Even through the trials of their division in social class. The story itself is a matter that I may uncover as we dive further into the discussion. For now, I would like to focus on the differences in our culture, and how love is expressed in movies then, and how it presents itself now. I suppose it is impossible to feel a sense of nostalgia when I have never had the opportunity to live in in the 40's, but oh, how I do have such a strong longing to love in that decade. Heh... Before I get ahead of myself, I would like you (the reader/listener) to understand that I do not think people were more romantic in back then then they are now. No, they may have been just as horrid at love as we are... But Hollywood had it right back then. In the first interaction with Temple's and Moore's romantic scene, they cited poetry and Shakespeare to each other. The most he wanted from her was to get to know her more, and the most she wanted from him was to know him more. For goodness sakes! He took her for a drive and they cited Shakespeare! This right here, is my first point. Now what is the contrast of this in today's movies? Well, nowaday's when a teen goes on a date in a movie, they expect to sleep with each other. Heck, they even show them doing it.... Classy right? The characters in this movie showed nothing but the utmost respect towards one another. the thing I also admire about this movie, is that this movie encourages men to show courtesy, respect, education, and delicacy with his interactions. In movies of the 21st century, men are portrayed as stupid, predictable, and simple minded dogs, "who are only after one thing." The second thing I notice about this move, is that parties back then, were kids dancing and having a grand old time of it. Good music, swing dancing, laughs. Today? Beer, drugs, grinding (if you call that dancing), and sex. It grieves me to see that guys in our society have so little respect. For themselves and girls. And that girls think they need to use their bodies to attract these drooling buffoons into "loving" them. Neither side shows much class or sophistication. There are very few times I witness men show patience, subtlety, courtesy, and respect for women theses days. Their are hardly any men. Just boys. My generation is filled with a bunch of selfish, feeling driven idiots who think sex is something to be won. They are too lazy to love. They are too lazy to wait. They are too lazy to spend time to get to know each other. It's just easier to get in bed, do your thing, and then never see each other again, until an "unexpected" surprise comes in 9 months. I feel that I sound too harsh, but it needs to be heard. Now, I am not going to pull the splinter out of your eye, and ignore the plank in mine. I am sure my notions of love are scattered in their own ways. All I want is to find someone who I can respect, and love, and in return show respect ans love for me.
It is impossible for me to find a love that is as pure as the kind found in, "Miss Annie Rooney," and I will certainly not hold out for the PERFECT women, when I just might up and miss the RIGHT woman. Even an imperfect woman would deserve more than me... and imperfect man. An added note that may help you understand love better, is to recognize that love is not a feeling. Love is sacrifice and devotion.
Last, Something that God made known is that love is an important trait necessary
for man to live. Romantic love in particular. I was talking to my
friend about "The right person." About how love is a lot like a box of chocolates. You need to read the ingredients before
you eat a chocolate, because within that chocolate… you may find
something that could harm you. That’s pretty much what dating is.
Looking at what makes that person tick before you make any life choices!
You might end up getting hurt and then that chocolate is soiled for
someone else. Not only are you scarred, but that other person is too.
God has created a box of chocolates that is meant just for you, so wait,
be patient! When you find the right person, you’ll find that they are
as sweet as God created them to be!
Looks like I didn't dive into the movie, but I got my point across I hope.
No it aint easy. Nobody should have ever led you to believe it would be. In our youth, if we are lucky, we believe life is easy. We believe it because we are lucky to have the good things you have listed. But, as we grow we realize that everything, even fun and friendships, requires work.
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